Hey, I'm doing an article type thing for my uni's queer newsletter, and was wondering if I could possibly have your permission to use the gender planet image that you created down the bottom of it? I will give full credit, I was just wondering if we could use it :)

Howdy!

Thanks so much for asking, and yes, please do use it for your article and let people know your source. We’d love to see a copy when you’re done. :) 

In community,

Mel

Gender planet page (cc) the GENDER book (www.thegenderbook.com)

Here’s our FAQ about it, in case others have a similar question:

I want to use a page…

Yes! You have our permission to use the book to help teach your Women and Gender sexuality class at the local college. Yes! Please use our Prezi when you present on gender to your organization. Yes! You may download the images from this site for your own powerpoint or handouts. You have our permission. Thanks for asking! You can learn more about our creative commons licensing here. 

Want to use our art or words for-profit, like in your own book or calendar or paid presentation?Contact us and we’ll work out a fair exchange.

I work in customer service, and want a genderless equivalent for maam/sir - is there such a thing in English?

Hi!

Thanks so much for asking. There aren’t any universally accepted ones that I know of, unfortunately. 

My best advice would be to address people using the honorific they are most closest presenting to (i.e. a butch or stud might prefer to be called sir, and a drag queen should most definitely be called ma’am).

But! What I’d prefer is if the service industry could step back from gendered words altogether and call me “folks” or “friends” or “beautiful people” more often. :)

I’m from the South and enjoy respectful language and honorifics as much as anyone, but when it’s respectful at the expense of being disrespectful, kinda defeats the purpose, dontcha think?

…Just my preference.

This isn't a question about the book, but I'm making a comic of my own for my psychology of gender class. Each page of the comic describes all the different sexual orientations and gender identities. I'm featuring Intersex in the comic. My question is: What would be a good way to accurately and distinctly represent intersexed people in the comic as an illustration?

Hiya!

First of all, let me know when your comic is done, sounds very interesting and I’d love to see it. 

To answer your question: I don’t think there is a distinctive way intersex people look, so I dunno if I can help you out. They look like everyone else. Because, hey, they’re normal people. 

What I did for the intersex page of the GENDER book is ask my (real-life) intersex friend Koomah to pose for the page. He’s a performance artist and out and proud. If you don’t have a Koomah in your life, start making friends and connections, these are the 2000s, we have the internets. :)

…But in terms of more practical advice, perhaps you could draw your cartoon character wearing an intersex pride t shirt? 

Good luck with your project!

How do I know if I'm non-binary or third gendered

Hmm.. Well, only you can know for yourself how you identify. But, if I were you, here are some clues I’d pay attention to…

You might be non-binary if….

  • you don’t know what to say when asked if you want a boy’s toy or a girl’s toy for my happy meal.
  • you feel most comfortable wearing outfits like: a skirt with combat boots and a tie.
  • You feel a little funny in single-gender spaces.
  • You don’t take the name your mother gave you
  • You spend time in front of the mirror emphasizing or de-emphasizing body parts
  • You sometimes cringe when waitstaff “sir/ma’am/ladies/dudes” you
  • You are bummed when you wake up from a gender-switching or genderless dream
  • You obsess over your facial hair
  • You kinda like it when you make people go, “Sir, I mean,  Ma’am..I mean.. uh…?”
  • You put the organ donor sticker over the gender marker on your ID
  • You’ve been bullied about your gender
  • You head for the gender-neutral single stall restooms
  • You’ve wished for more options for formal attire

Of course, you know yourself best, everyone’s experience is unique, and at the end of the day, only you can say how you identify. These are just kinda for fun, like the Gender Identity Page of the GENDER book.

**As a side-note, most people I know who use third-gender language specifically are not of European descent, and are often closer to indigenous cultures. Step cautiously if you are claiming a word and you aren’t a part of the same cultures that first used them. Finding the just-right word can be liberating and crucial, but being authentic and respectful is even more so. There are other words that aren’t as loaded you can explore instead if this sounds like you, such as genderqueer, transgender, gender non-conforming, genderfluid, genderf*cked, and more!**

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Reblog and add your own experience of you might be non-binary if…!

Pronoun nametags are adorable. Hoping to get some donated for our bi-coastal book launch party (in Houston and San Francisco). *fingers crossed*

Just thought I’d share in case yall hadn’t seen these yet. Stay tuned for more about our big book launches, but in the meantime, save the dates- May 4th for SF, May 15th for Houston.

Ok folks, your posters are on their way! Expect them in 2-8* days. If you don’t see yours by then, drop me a line and I’ll check the tracking for you. Special thanks to all 4 of my buddies who stopped by to stuff envelopes and play dirty pictionary with me. Y’all are the best!

*if you aren’t in the US I have no idea how long it will take. Also, int’l shipping is way expensive.

Packing party tonight for the posters at my place! say that three times fast.

Anyone in the Oakland area who wants to make new friends & who isn’t afraid of papercuts should email me for an invite. :)

I’ve been wrestling with PayPal shipping inputs all day and headed to my mailbox to figure how much this weighs, but I’m really pleased at our little return address stamp and the purple ink and that the envelopes are 99% recycled! :)

Mel Reiff Hill

Hi all! I’ll be interviewed this Friday on a sweet radio show and talking about the GENDER book along with some other great sex and gender writers. Come join us and hear updates on the book straight from my mouth!

<3 

Mel

Longtime GENDER book supporter and trans comic-drawer Sam Orchard is launching a colorful, beautiful book about people with interesting genders. Go check it out, if you like the GENDER book, you&#8217;ll like him, I bet!
https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/samorchard/queer-and-trans-comic-series-launch-and-usa-tour

Longtime GENDER book supporter and trans comic-drawer Sam Orchard is launching a colorful, beautiful book about people with interesting genders. Go check it out, if you like the GENDER book, you’ll like him, I bet!

https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/samorchard/queer-and-trans-comic-series-launch-and-usa-tour

Hi ya&#8217;ll! I just updated the about the creators page, where you can meet us&#8212; the artists, authors, and activists behind the GENDER book.
Can you spot the drag kings, genderqueers, and trans guys, and our main character&#8217;s real life counterpart Boston? 
PS- in other news, a little birdie told me the books are done at the printers and awaiting their big trip to Texas for our #packingparty in the garage. The posters will be done by this time next week. We&#8217;re working hard to get the perks to our fabulous fans. :)

Hi ya’ll! I just updated the about the creators page, where you can meet us— the artists, authors, and activists behind the GENDER book.

Can you spot the drag kings, genderqueers, and trans guys, and our main character’s real life counterpart Boston

PS- in other news, a little birdie told me the books are done at the printers and awaiting their big trip to Texas for our #packingparty in the garage. The posters will be done by this time next week. We’re working hard to get the perks to our fabulous fans. :)

glorytohypnotoad:

thegenderbook:

Coming out resources
Just realized your identity as a transgender person? That can be a fun, enlightening, and kind of scary experience. When you’re ready, you might want to tell other people about it! Don’t worry, that’s part of why we wrote and drew the GENDER book- as a little toolbox for sharing your gender with the world. Try printing out a page or two to start a conversation, or give it to a loved one as a little ‘homework’ reading after you tell them about yourself. Need more help and encouragement?
Check out the coming out resources page we made: http://www.thegenderbook.com/coming-out-resources

I wish my friends would be that understanding and helpful.

Haha yeah, that cartoon is kind of a best-case scenario. What are some reactions you&#8217;ve gotten to coming out, community?

glorytohypnotoad:

thegenderbook:

Coming out resources

Just realized your identity as a transgender person? That can be a fun, enlightening, and kind of scary experience. When you’re ready, you might want to tell other people about it!

Don’t worry, that’s part of why we wrote and drew the GENDER book- as a little toolbox for sharing your gender with the world. Try printing out a page or two to start a conversation, or give it to a loved one as a little ‘homework’ reading after you tell them about yourself. Need more help and encouragement?

Check out the coming out resources page we made: http://www.thegenderbook.com/coming-out-resources

I wish my friends would be that understanding and helpful.

Haha yeah, that cartoon is kind of a best-case scenario. What are some reactions you’ve gotten to coming out, community?

Coming out resources

Just realized your identity as a transgender person? That can be a fun, enlightening, and kind of scary experience. When you&#8217;re ready, you might want to tell other people about it!
Don&#8217;t worry, that&#8217;s part of why we wrote and drew the GENDER book- as a little toolbox for sharing your gender with the world. Try printing out a page or two to start a conversation, or give it to a loved one as a little &#8216;homework&#8217; reading after you tell them about yourself. Need more help and encouragement?

Check out the coming out resources page we made: http://www.thegenderbook.com/coming-out-resources

Coming out resources

Just realized your identity as a transgender person? That can be a fun, enlightening, and kind of scary experience. When you’re ready, you might want to tell other people about it!

Don’t worry, that’s part of why we wrote and drew the GENDER book- as a little toolbox for sharing your gender with the world. Try printing out a page or two to start a conversation, or give it to a loved one as a little ‘homework’ reading after you tell them about yourself. Need more help and encouragement?

Check out the coming out resources page we made: http://www.thegenderbook.com/coming-out-resources